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Do you strive to be perfect? Never feeling fully satisfied with where things are now? Do you think you are not good enough, think of yourself as a loser?If you want to be the most, the first and the best of all…Stop it! Perfectionism is destroying you.Perfectionists are highly critical of others and themselves. They strive to achieve their best performance and goals in everything they do. What they can't accept in themselves is something they reject in others.They try to please others with their performance. And although it encourages them to excel, it also instills a fear of failure.If you strive to be perfect, you tend to compare yourself with others and often try to demean them.People try hard to have their lives look perfect in order to mask massive underlying issues.Do any of these statements sound familiar to you?I have been told I am too judgmental, often thinking the worst of othersI feel that others have unrealistically high expectations of meI hate asking for help, because it can be perceived as a flaw or weaknessI can't stand being interruptedI can't stand it if my house/office is not organised meticulouslyI think that others are constantly judging me and feeling dissatisfied with me.I get really upset when I feel criticizedI feel I have to do everything myself because nobody can do things properlyI can't stop thinking about a mistake I madeIt is difficult for me to delegateI want something either perfect or not at allI am constantly checking and rechecking work before considering it finishedI am careful about how I phrase things so people will like meI find it very difficult to say ‘no'I feel guilty if I take time for myselfAsking for what I want is hard for meI avoid any situation which could be confrontationalI am reluctant to form relationships with others for fear of being rejected or looking foolishI get irritated when others don't get things rightWhen I have made a decision I often doubt my choiceI avoid social situations because I feel uncomfortableI feel inferior to people more successful, more attractive than mePeople will look down on me if I look foolish or make a mistakeI feel devastated if I make a mistakeI am very competitive and can't stand doing worse than othersI avoid trying things I might not be good atI don't want others see my imperfectionsI worry about what people will think of meI want to be thought of as a nice personI am a fault-finder, I must correct other people when they are wrongI find myself obsessing about the finer details of a taskI felt that I could never meet my parents' expectationsIt is hard for me to complain about a poor product or serviceI tend to be quite critical of my family/colleagues which causes arguments and bad feelingsI feel anxious if I think someone might think badly of meI am very self-conscious about making mistakes in front of other peopleIf I don't do well all the time people won't respect meI hate it if I don't get something right from the beginningEvery project I do has to be 100-percent perfectI don't like it when others don't do something the way I doI like to be ready for everything that can happenIf I gain a few pounds, I will look like a pigI am often tense and depressed when I need to do somethingI can be very fixated on detailsIf people knew my true self, they would dislike meIf during a diet I eat one cookie, I continue to eat because I have already ruined the dietI will look terrible if I wear shorts because my legs are fatI often use the word "must".Entertaining is good, but only after I finish all the workI am never really satisfied with my work; it never feels completely finishedMy self-confidence depends on my achievementsIf I fail, I tend to ruminate about it over and over again.I can never have anyone over to dinner because my house is messyIt's hard for me to finish projects because I can always do something more to improve themIf my report isn't perfect, I'll get firedI'm indecisive because I'm afraid of making a mistakeI have to volunteer for every projectI have to endlessly prove my worth at work and it is exhaustingIt is hard for me to think outside the boxNobody ever appreciates meAlthough I earn good money, I constantly think that it's not enoughI want to feel and look successful, so I spend a lot of money on clothes and status items (cars, phones, etc.)Perfectionists tend to be:CompetitiveDefensive and over-emotionalAmbitiousCritical, pickyFussy, judgmentalAggressive or hostileAfraid of criticismFast walking, talking, speakingHere are some negative effects of perfectionism:AnxietyDepressionBeating yourself upPanic disorderSocial isolationInsomniaExhaustion and tirednessMuscle tensionWorking endless hoursRuminationIncreased self-criticismSexual dysfunctionLow self-esteemRepeated checkingObsessive-compulsive disorderExcessive amount of time spent on tasksPutting off tasks (procrastination)List-makingBeing over-thoroughHating to waste timeDecreased creativityDecreased job satisfactionEating disordersIn this course you will learn:How to deal with challenges and failuresHow to stop worrying about everythingHow to overcome inner criticHow to achieve your goalsHow to behave at workHow to say "NO"How to deal with negative thoughtsHow to stop being harsh and unforgivingHow to make a decision without stressHow to stop being rigid and inflexiblehow to overcome the fear of failureHow to stop worrying about your body image and weight lossHow to raise confident and happy childrenHow to overcome painful emotions and be happyHow to overcome jealousyHow to stop judging peopleHow to stop having high expectations of people and lifeHow to stop worrying about losing your jobHow to be pleased with yourselfHow to be a positive personHow to be assertiveHow to overcome your deepest fearsHow to deal with mean peopleHow to accept reality and circumstancesHow to deal with grief and lossHow to be mindfulHow to outgrow your childhood experiencesHow to raise a non-perfectionist childHow to deal with anxietyHow to praise yourself and your achievementsHow to be gratefulHow to communicate your needs and desiresHow to use the correct languageHow to deal with negative thoughtsHow to find a perfect partner and be in a happy relationshipHow to communicate with friends without stressHow to overcome aggression and resentmentHow to start changing your lifeHow to show empathyHow to listen to somebodyHow to overcome the fear of growing oldHow to react to criticismHow to let go of controlPerfectionists are people who are supposed to be successful and happy, but strangely are not. They are highly critical of others and themselves. They strive to achieve the best performance and goals in everything they do. Despite being wealthy, healthy, famous, and gorgeous, they are unhappy.Perfectionism makes you stay home, not take chances, and procrastinate on projects. It makes you think your life is worse than it is; it keeps you from being yourself; it stresses you out.This course will help you to give up perfectionism and start living a happy life. You will learn to overcome procrastination and keep moving toward your goals. This course will also give you some tools to overcome the fear of failure, anxiety and negativity. You will learn how to make good decisions and be more flexible.

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